I’m so incredibly sick and tired of this shit! I really don’t have to explain myself to anyone, but at this point I just want to. When I started blogging I had a 3 month old and nothing to do but care for her. I started off by reviewing stuff I owned and gradually grew my readership and brand relationship as time went on. I hustle and I do it well. Here’s why…
While others are on the outside looking in they see a very happy adorably dressed kid who just so happens to wear hearing aides. I am on the inside… I struggle to get by, but I still DO get by. I graduated High School in 2009, but ever since I started attending some amazing blogger/media events I feel like I’m in highschool all over again.
All bloggers talk and rumors get spread and overheard. It’s annoying! How old are we and why does my presence bother you? Are you intimidated by me? Do I have something you don’t? Who crowned you supreme queen/king of anything? Get over yourself… Do understand that I am not calling anyone out, nor am I trying to get any type of pity. I just truly have no Fs to give about what other people think of me!
Oh my, why is she at this event?
I am an attendee of the event because I was personally invited or the invite was shared after brand confirmation. I don’t go around asking anyone why anyone else is there because I do not care. I only care about myself and my family first. It’s a shame how many times this truly happens. Not only to me, but others as well.
What Is she wearing?
I’m wearing what I got! If you have a problem with the way I dress, then please dear! Be my guest and buy me some new threads. I’d be happy to wear them at your expense. Ever stop to think that they were having a rough morning or they just aren’t as privileged as you to look like a runway model every breathing moment?
Why does she have that? She doesn’t even need it!
Why do you have what you have? I’ve never seen you need it. Oh maybe you have a family member who would love it. Or maybe you are saving it for a special occasion. Oh I know, Maybe you are donating it? I mean, the only person who really knows is you right?
I just can’t believe that it really goes down like this. At the end of the day, I am a queen to myself. I know my worth, I respect my Own Hustle, and no one knows absolutely ANYTHING about me. Show some respect to your peers and don’t act like Mean Girls or Jocks from Highschool. We are grownups and we are ALL Bloggers!
Yikes – sorry you had this type of challenging experience with other bloggers. Stay strong…find a good niche of bloggers and keep that confidence.
Karen
I am sorry you had this experience! Sadly there are some catty people in the blogging world just as in life, keep up your good work and keeping doing what you do best!
Wow, I didn't know that kind of stuff happened at conferences. I hate that and it makes me not want to attend. Why are women so hard on each other?
Sounds like you had a bad experience. Yes, women can be so judgy and I mess up every now and then too. This is a good reminder that we don't know another persons story until we actually get to know them.
It's crab mentality and I think it's unnecessary! We don't need this type of negativity in the community, we should be supporting each other to help the community grow and flourish. Sorry for going through this. You have an awesome blog, just keep doing what you do!
I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. I've never experienced anything negative at blogging events or with blogging in general but I know it happens.
I've had a couple run ins like this with other bloggers but it has been not to this extreme as to them asking these questions of me. I am so sorry that you had to go through something like this.
I don't get the mean girl mentality at all. I really wish women would boost everyone up, not tear them down. I say you do you, and let the mean girls stay in negative town.
Oh dear…here we go again. Adult bullies on the warpath and I bet they are mainly women
I'm not exactly sure what you're talking about I have an experienced at this and I've been plugged in since 2011 I'm sorry you're having this experience but maybe you should pick better bloggers to hang out and be friends with. thanks
That sounds like a really horrible way to be treated. Especially by professional peer group.
I am sorry to hear you have had this experience. I have been blogging for 5 years and haven't experienced anything like this yet. I have never been to a conference though so maybe that will change. Keep doing you and be proud!
Who's bothering my fairy blog mother? You have worked hard and are great at what you do. Forget the mean girls. You're a cool kid 😜 They just want to sit with you,
Babe there are always people like this in life, they enjoy trying to make other people miserable because they themselves are not happy with their own life. My advise is to ignore them keep doing what your doing work your but off and enjoy what you do and do it with love. Be positive always and don't let anyone put you down.
Our blogging community locally here in Arizona is very small, and unfortunately I have heard other bloggers dealing with these sorts of scenarios. It's really unfortunate, and I'm sorry you have dealt with it as well.
I feel your pain. I live in Atlanta and sometimes the blogger world is like another version of Mean Girls. Cliquish and Snobbish. I have constantly gotten the "Why is she here" stare…but now because its been years and I am a pretty respected blogger here in Atlanta they can get over it. Because once you arent going anywhere and your brand is going they can hate but internally they are struggling because you are still around. Dont let peoples negative energy get the best of you.
Women are catty in EVERY industry and its an insecurity issue with them. If they were secure about their own blog and their own work you wouldnt be an issue. Dont worry about people's projections – they will have no choice but to get over it the more and more they see you. Good luck.
Oh hun who are these awful people, I hate people that make judgements without knowing shit. But sadly the blogging world can be very like high school.
Haters are gonna hate! Just don't listen to anyone and keep doing what you do! My mom always told me: Get worried when no one is talking about you. It doesn't matter if its good or bad. If its good it's because they like you, if it's bad most likely is jealousy! So just shake off the haters. If you love what you do that's what matters.
I am so sorry that you got treated like that! The blogging community can be really nasty. At the end of the day you do you, mama. Haters are gonna hate for sure! You will find some lovely people. Women who can empower each other