No one is born mean, rude, or even racist. Unfortunately, Some kids grow up to be this way. I know it’s not always because of how they were raised. It may just be that they are around people who are like that on a regular or even TV. I’m pretty sure many parents can relate to the ridiculous whining that occurs after a few continuous episodes of Caillou…. We can all agree we did not raise whiners. My kid will be 4 soon, but the amount of mean kids we encounter on a daily basis is ridiculous. It’s time to teach her how to deal with it.
My child is very friendly. She may have her little tantrums here and there, but she is always the life of the party. We attend many outings and go on little day trips often so my daughter is always meeting new people. More often than not, the children end up being rude, obnoxious, or just plain mean. I once overheard a little girl tell her friend “I don’t want to sit next to her, I don’t” (talking about my daughter) so I kindly smiled, grabbed my daughter and told her “It’s ok baby, let’s go play with the nice kids your age”. That was that!
My child is in the 98th percentile for height so I know many kids immediately think she’s 6, until she starts talking. That’s where some kids start saying “we can’t play with you because you’re a baby”. My daughter gets sad, but you know what I say? ” It’s ok Gabby, you’re not a baby. You’re just too awesome for them so let’s go and find you new friends.” It hurts me just a little more now that my kid is starting to wonder why. It doesn’t happen all the time, but just enough to realize that kids these days are so much worse than before.
Would you believe that we’ve even encountered a child (who is light skin, but half black) that said she doesn’t like to play with my child because “she is black”. She was talking about my daughter’s beautiful complexion and I was baffled. How can a child who is half-black, half-spanish not want to play with my kid because she is darker? It doesn’t make sense, but that IS life. The sooner I can teach my kid to deal with it, the better her life will hopefully be.
I know that kids will be kids, but when these kids are some that you see often and they still act the same way… There’s clearly a mean bug going around in the air. In case you don’t fully understand this post….
I’m teaching my kid:
* When someone is mean to you, walk away and make a new friend.
* If someone doesn’t want to play with you now, Play by yourself or find someone else.
* If someone pushes or hits you, you tell me right away and I will tell their mother.
* If you are rude to someone, you WILL be on timeout!
Have you witnessed these or similar behaviors? How have you handled it?